Real Talk BLOG

Oktober 7, 2022 

Chevirio & Anastacija  

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In Loving Memory

 

It’s been over a year now. 

Time is going fast. We are both starting a new chapter in our lives. We can’t do that without remembering you. Because we never forget our loved ones. 

We’ve known you all our lives. It’s so unbelievable that you haven’t been with us for almost a year and a month now. We often think back to when we were younger and you have always been a part of our lives. 

We went to theme parks together, also to Halloween Fright Nights with a group of friends and on vacation. Everyone was always impressed by you. You always made everyone happy. You could talk about everything. You always knew what was in the newspapers, read a lot of books and talked about it. 

You loved the Athenaeum bookstore. You went to concerts in the Concert Building, Paradiso, Melkweg and the Bimhuis. You loved playing music on your bass guitar, your double bass and your trumpet. You were a big fan of Classical music, of Jazz and the North Sea Jazz Festival. Yes, we found all those things special. You were just special. We always liked the way you treated us. You always wanted to make us happy. 

‘Love is the whole thing. We are only pieces.’

Rumi   

What would you say?

Every time we make a decision about U-ICON, we think, “What would Aloysius say, what would he advise us?” And then we know again. You would say: ‘Do what you think is best, follow your gut. Use your intuition because that is leading in life. You can achieve a lot if you work for it and use your brain. And you always said, Write everything down.” 

And you would also say, “Stick To The Script, follow your plan, adjust if necessary but stick to your plan. Do your best, be successful and always be happy with everything you do. Don’t let anyone get to you. We say the latter a lot these days. 

It’s so weird that we can’t talk to you anymore, never see you again. We look at your photos and think, “No, that just can’t be true.” It always seems like you can walk in at any moment, like you’re not really gone. 

We miss your smile, your jokes, your presence, your attention and love. Because you had a lot of love for everyone around you. You will always be very special to us. We are grateful to have known you. That you always gave us attention and that you have been a mentor to us, even though we were not aware of it at the time. 

‘Your task is not to seek love, but merely to seek and find all the barriers within yourself that you have built against it.’ 

Rumi

Not common at all

The fact that we are all going to die is something we cannot grasp very well. We actually prefer not to think about it. It’s pretty hard to talk about death. We experience that as scary and mysterious. As if when you talk about it, you attract it. But of course that’s not the case. It’s good to talk about it, we know, and yet too intense at the same time.

What we are becoming much more aware of every day is that we need to really see all the lovely people around us much more and be happier and grateful together every day. You should give Love to your loved ones every day, not just when they are no longer there. We often just take everything as normal. But it’s not all that common at all, and you don’t realize that until later. 

Why don’t we learn more about death in primary school or high school, not a single lesson is about death? How you deal with it, what it does to you. Or how to grieve, how to deal with those feelings. We don’t learn anything about ‘real’ life at school, crazy actually.

We think we will always be here. While everything in life is temporary and ends for everyone with death, and its sorrow for the people who are left behind. Death, how fierce it may be, is unfortunately a part of life. 

Life lessons

You told us about important people like Dr. Bruce Lipton and Dr. Joe Dispenza, Louise Hay and also about Sadhguru. That they teach us about important life lessons that we should follow them on social media to become more wiser. We still haven’t done that, by the way. You know, young people don’t always listen directly. But we certainly will.

It was nice that you shared Sadhguru stories and other life lessons with us. This gave us even more beautiful memories to think of you.   

Namasté Aloysius

Finally, we want to say that we miss and love you very much. We will never forget that you taught us a lot, and we use that knowledge in our lives. If we need it we will definitely look for more of your life lessons. Thank you for everything you shared with us.

Your birthday is in a few days. We always think of you with lots of Love. Namasté Dear Aloysius.