Real Talk BLOG

October 29, 2021 

Chevirio & Anastacija  

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How do you get happy?

 

We have learned a lot this week. Of course we will share that right away in this blog. We are glad we know this now. Because who doesn’t want to be joyful and happy? 

What is important for a lasting relationship? Durable = that which lasts for a long time or has a long life. A sustainable relationship consists of 6 conditions that are the basis of a healthy relationship. These fixed aspects are necessary to make those relationships understandable. Such as: What is important for the relationship. How do you deal with each other, or is there really a lot of work to be done for that relationship, with anyone? 

‘Happiness is not something ready made, it comes from your own actions.’

Dalai Lama

6 important points

1. Being able to set boundaries

2. Balance in giving and receiving

3. Clear and open communication

4. Be aware of each other’s history

5. Being psychologically independent

6. Supporting Personal Development

Everyone is their own person in a relationship. Our life path runs side by side. But we all walk our own life path. If we all take this into account, we can think about it more consciously and we are able to better understand and release each other. Parents especially need to learn and know this well. Because actually your parents should teach you this. 

Speaking honestly

What does it mean to have a healthy relationship with each other? That means you have to keep developing together. You talk honestly, clearly and openly with each other. You enter into a dialogue about less pleasant qualities that you encounter in order to stay happy together. Like it’s that easy! Sounds easier than it is.

When you are aware of each other’s history, you are more aware of where these particular patterns come from in the other person, and in yourself. What beliefs have arisen in life because of your past? What standards was he or she raised? By reflecting on this you realize better that you are both your own person in that relationship. Of course we don’t always succeed.

Patience with each other is necessary to be able to work on relationships. If you don’t want that, you always break up. Because then you just don’t understand each other anymore. Consciousness is important here. And that’s not floaty. Because we young people need awareness more than we think. 

‘Surround yourself with those who see greatness within you, even when you don’t see it yourself.’

Zig Zaglar

Your life

Life paths run side by side. Everyone walks their own life path and is alone in that relationship. There is room for every person to set boundaries and, above all, to make their own choices. There must be balance in giving and receiving. Sometimes one will give a little more than the other and sometimes vice versa.

Personal development and the personal growth process run side by side, just like life paths. The most important thing is that you continue to support and understand each other during these developments that we all go through.

So if you are able to apply those 6 important points but the other is not. Or you don’t have anyone who can help you with your personal development and the personal growth process. Then it can sometimes get difficult.

If you don’t have anyone to help you, chances are you’ll be unhappy because you don’t feel understood. There are again many different and unpleasant feelings. You always have to resolve those feelings for yourself. It’s your life. You have 2 choices: Stay and dissolve or leave and let go. 

Be happy

Before you can have a good relationship with anyone, family, friends and partner, you need 6 points to make that happen. 100% will not always work, but they have to be there.

Ultimately, you are the only one who determines your life path. If we have children later, this is good to know in advance. Because you always want your child or anyone around you to be happy. You have to be happy yourself to be able to pass that on. That means that you have to choose to apply those 6 aspects in your own life first.

What do we think? Be straight to the point. “Say what you think and stand for it. It doesn’t matter what anyone else thinks. Live your life the way you want and be happy. You won’t always be happy because something always happens that you don’t want or don’t want to Solve it, that is also part of life. 

‘The purpose of our lives is to be happy.’

Dalai Lama